Taking My Own Advice

Someone that is very close to me was shocked that I said it was a long walk from the car to the door of the building. It really wasn’t very far…if you are not disabled! All the handicapped spots were taken, and my hubby offered to drop me off at the door, but I did not want to be singled out like that. I should have accepted the offer.  Instead, I chose to keep looking at my feet just focusing on one painful step and then the next one.

We were headed to something fun, but I was dreading it. I have been in so much pain this past week and a half. Just over the top pain that it hurts to breathe. But I would have been in pain no matter what so I decided to go anyway. It was just one of those times that you know that you are going to pay for it, but you do it anyway. I needed to get out of the house to clear my head and be around other people, so I pushed myself to go.

I was so hurt by the statement. I was humiliated. I cringed at the truth of what they said. The statement taunted me that I had a hard time walking such a short distance. The statement made me very mad at my body for letting me down.

I could have said something in my defense and enlightened her, but I didn’t. I just didn’t have the mental energy because the pain always depletes it. Thankfully, my brain did work enough, and I remembered quickly what mama always said: if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. I am hoping that the awkward silence was enough to make a loud statement. I doubt it did though.

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I do not want to be internalizing this, so I want to post it and let it go. I’ve always had anxiety, but the chronic pain has increased it because of so many factors are out of my control every day because of the pain. I talked some about my struggle with anxiety in a previous post.

As I type this, the doubts about myself are starting to kick in. I have only begun to understand my anxiety after a year and a half working with my psychologist. But situations like these set off the emotions. I just wish I could get people to understand what having chronic pain is really like. They say they know how we feel, but they don’t. They never will, unless they experience it for themselves. Even the ones closest to you.

The thought process has been laborious, but I am trying to choose to be positive. That’s why I called the blog Chronic Pain With A Higher Perception because I’m deciding to change my perception.  I can’t change others, but I can improve myself.  This is the best thing I can do for my health.

I am going to find some other positive blogs to help my resolve, and I will pray that the person will never experience pain as I have.

How would have you handled this situation? Has anything like this happened to you, and how did you remain positive?

Much Love & Many Prayers,

Cindy

 

 

3 thoughts on “Taking My Own Advice

  1. I know where you are coming from. When I started blogging I learned that sarcasm is my new best friend. I have learned to make fun of my self. If it were not for finding humor even of that handicapped tag hanging on the mirror and walking down halls with my hand protecting my rear then I don’t think my family would have survived me. I learned to have true compassion for others. God chose this path for me and how I chose to go forth reflects my strength. I hope I am reflecting grace in this journey.

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    • Exactly. I have learned to have empathy. My heart breaks for what some chronic illness/pain patients are going through and so many of them do not have any support. So, someone showing sympathy and empathy may be the determining factor in that person picking themselves off the floor or not for the umpteenth time after life knocks them down again. So, I believe that having sincere sympathy for another human being is the ultimate kindness and act of love. Thank you for your encouragement and for letting your little light shine!

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